The husband need not exercise his authority in a rough or arrogant way ...

The husband need not exercise his authority in a rough or arrogant way which might encourage the wife to react by being intentionally disobedient. [Dr. Bilal Philips]

Are you playful with your spouse or neglectful? Is communication between you good or is something getting lost in translation? Marriage is hard work, but worth every effort! You’ve been blessed with a spouse. Take the responsibility seriously and be grateful to Allah.